A Response to "If it's meant to be it will be"

The comment you made about things if its meant to be it will be I would say "yeah, most definitely" it is a comforting thought however it is far from true. "It was meant to be" suggests that what happens in life under any circumstance is subject to some unknown force and nothing we do can change it. "Fate" is false doctrine, period. There is no such thing as fate. There is an unseen force (God) that watches over us but never to any degree interferes with the decisions and choices we make. That is why I said last night that God gave human freewill. With God who is that unseen force he created this earth upon which we live and everything in it or upon it. We have the opportunity for happiness beyond description but it will never happen because "it was meant to be". We may suffer the agonies of Hell but it will not be because "it was meant to be". We are at the helm of our own lives because we were given "free agency" before we came to this life in order that we may come to know these great truths if we seek them diligently. There is an ultimate "good" and an opposing "evil" and one bit of good news about it all is that we will not be judged in ignorance. One must know the truth, come to embrace it and make it a part of their lives to truly enjoy them. If one never learns the ultimate truth then why would a loving God judge them for that which they know not? The evil that opposes it will ultimately fail. This is why there is no such thing as fate. You are free to choose. We make our lifes and live our days based on our choices and will we make bad choices yes we will. But I would rather take a chance on love then look back in life and say I wished I would have. If you dont look into what you want in the future how can you prepair yourself for the present.

In a relationship No relationship grows out of selfishness. Give your unconditional love freely and watch your heart fill with the love returned to you. Give your unflagging support, and see your partner return much to you in the guise of gratitude. As far as growth as a person you can only grow if you dont do what you normally do you use your freewill and follow a path that is good for your life. You work to do your best  to improve everything in life. In a  relationship and love if you need  to  reach out and grab it and hold it tight. You only have one life to live and you must live that life and understand if you make that wrong decission with that one life there is no reset button you can push. That sometimes you realize to late you made the wrong choice. Then you will sit back and start to say I wished I would have did all I could have to keep this and  if I only would have.? We do have a choice to what road and path we take. The question is do you take the road going down because it looks easier or do we take the road going up and know in the end it will be a better outcome.

Crazy World

  The world is so crazy how now people have to use things like facebook to ask questions about things going on in there relationship. A inlove relationship in this context is an emotional and other connection between two people. This is not for other to pass judgements nor give advice.
   Its so crazy how a person can try to spend a romantic trip with another and it turn into a facebook question for people.  The statement to the person was asking if they could help out with the gas or food for the trip?   So instead of the person explaining the whole situation they make it look bad on the person that asked for help on the trip. So you really have to ask the question when the person asks people is it wrong for that person to ask for help with gas or food.  Well lets see the person wants to try and do a getaway for the two of them with no kids but knows he has three kids and he has not got child support since Aug 2010. Yet he still wants to show and treat the person like a princess with a romantic time regardless that he was spending over $600 for the cabin and anything they would do while on the trip. They cant explain how the person is not rich and does not have all this money to spend but is wanting to do this for that person.
   So some people may say before they know everything how selfish and not caring this is. Is it not selfish and not caring that it is a person's first birthday they spend with the other and they do not offer to take them out to eat nor do they even go and get them just a card. What about if its the first Valentines they spend togather and the person can find the time and resources to get there son's friends a sucker or something and cant even get the person they are suppose to be inlove with even a valentines day card.  Even a hand written letter is a thought that goes so far and cost nothing. The point is this is selfish and not caring. This has nothing to do with things being just one persons way or no way. This has to do with communication between each other and being equal.

   People at times may see that it may come across that it is my way or no way but there are certain situations that require it to be one sided for the good of the whole. 

Circle of True Love

 In life at one time or another we are always searching for something. We search for our car keys. We may even search for that little bit of change we know we dropped in the couch. Then once we find it we are happy and full of joy.
  After a failed marriage I was lost. I didn't understand. This was one of the hardiest things in my life I  had to deal with. After my marriage I dated and was able to look back at my marriage and realize how important communication is. Not only is communication important but a balance of giving and receiving.
  I ask myself why it is so hard to find someone who is willing to give the attention and affection that I give to them. I am not saying that there needs to be a score card but we do need to pay attention so that one person isn't doing all the giving while the other only takes in the relationship.
  Sometimes we love on the person and give that person the utmost attention. We change our plans,we even run late when we have an appointment or need to be somewhere else just so we can spend that little of time with them. You do this because you are in love with them and you don't want anything back except good feelings.
   Balance doesn;t mean giving and receiving the same amount daily; it means the scales don't tip to far in either direction overall.
   I know that in life there may be periods in a relationship in which one person does most of the giving, then later, the other person does. Or we may contribute one thing, and the other person gives something else.
   Its so mind blowing how a person who is in love with a person and will do everything they can for them, only to find out the other person will not sacrifice the time they have because something better came along. 
  A relationship is all about sacrifice and showing the other person how special they are and how you will do everything you can to help them . Time is short and life is so busy. If a person does love you in a relationship they will not make you feel used or last they will make you feel complete.